Moving Beyond Yourself

 


By Eddie Capparucci, LPC, CSAS, CPCS

A doctor, a lawyer, a little boy, and a priest were out for a Sunday afternoon flight on a small private plane. Suddenly, the plane developed engine trouble. Despite the best efforts of the pilot, the plane started to go down. Finally, the pilot grabbed a parachute and yelled to the passengers that they better jump, and he himself bailed out.untitled

Unfortunately, there were only three parachutes remaining. The doctor grabbed one and said, “I’m a doctor, I save lives, so I must live,” and jumped out. The lawyer then said, “I’m a lawyer and lawyers are the smartest people in the world. I deserve to live.” He also grabbed a parachute and jumped.

The priest looked at the little boy and said, “My son, I’ve lived a long and full life. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Take the last parachute and live in peace.”
The little boy handed the parachute back to the priest and said, “Not to worry Father. The smartest man in the world just took off with my backpack.”

We think a lot about ourselves. We may not realize it but it’s true. As individuals, we are far too concerned about our own comfort – which requires the removal of mental and emotional distress while acquiring things in life that bring us pleasure. On top of that, we spend far too much time worrying about how others perceive us and working to make good impressions. If you don’t believe that just look at most Facebook postings.
And what is at the heart of this selfishness? Misguided pride. Continue reading

Now Available: Breaking Your Shame Label

Many Christians struggle to feel God’s love because of their own shame. My new ebook, “Breaking Your Shame Label” tackles an issue that is not addressed enough in our churches – Christians who suffer with shame because they do not believe they measure up to receive God’s love. As a result, they feel disconnected from God and have a difficult time feeling His love for them. book-cover-label-9-29My Sites

As a Christian counselor with a private practice in Marietta, GA, I see two frightening similarities in many Christian clients.

  1. They carry a burden of shame that results from an inability to control sinful behavior. We tend to believe God’s seal of approval is based on our “performance.” This creates a mindset of never measuring up to what God expects from us. This leads to what I call a Shame Label.
  2. There is an endless struggle to feel God’s love and presence. “What does God’s love feel like” we ask. We dare not move toward Him in fear He will label us as disappointments and reject us. What we fail to recognize is we are projecting the negative feelings we have about ourselves on to God. We have adopted lies Satan drills into our heads to hinder our relationship with the Father. We are trapped in the Christian Shame Cycle, which leaves us feeling spiritually empty.

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Let Jesus Feel the Shame

God doesn’t want to shame you. He wants to help remove your shame. This article was written by Tim Challies, who is a blogger, author, and book reviewer and first appeared Sept. 5, 2012.
So many Christians live their lives racked with guilt and shame. They think back to the things they did, the sins they committed, whether two days ago or two decades, and they live under a cloud of shame. This shame hurts, it burns, it incapacitates. It raises this question: What is the place of guilt, what is the place of shame, in the life of the Christian? I want to take a shot at answering that question today. anonymous-376540_1280

We need to begin by distinguishing between guilt and shame. Here is how I differentiate between them: Guilt is the objective reality that I have committed an offense or a crime; shame is the subjective experience of feeling humiliation or distress because of what I have done. God has made us in such a way that sin incurs guilt and guilt generates shame. But there is a catch and a caution: Guilt and shame come in helpful forms and in paralyzingly unhelpful forms. Guilt and shame can be a good gift of God or a curse of Satan. Continue reading

The Secret to Sinning Less? Loving More.

By Eddie Capparucci, LPC, CSAS, CPCS

Living the Christian life is not easy.

As followers of Christ, we long to be obedient to God. We crave to be seen as righteous in his eyes and to “be holy as He is holy”. We desire to honor Christ for the sacrifice He made for us. leap-456100_640
But it seems more often than not our quest to become obedient children fails time and time again. Along the way we run into various temptations that we just can’t seem to resist. We continue to struggle with nasty habits that have been ingrained into our way of life since we were young. We pursue our own selfish desires, while overlooking the needs of others who could benefit from our assistance. No, the Christian life is not easy. Continue reading

Lies Satan Uses to Enhance Christian Shame 

“It’s pretty difficult to believe God loves and accepts you after you wake up in a strange man’s apartment with a massive hangover,” said Carole. “You know you are acting in a way God would not approve, so how do you approach Him when you need His help? I just can’t bring myself to be honest and contrite with Him because I’m so ashamed of the things I am doing to degrade my body.”liar-satan1 Continue reading

In God’s Time

You need to read this brief column written by Chuck Swindoll where he points out that we hate waiting on God for his plan to develop for our lives. This is even more evident when we are engrossed in shame. We hate our circumstances and ourselves. We want it all to go away. It will. In God’s time.

The Highway to the Promised Land
by Chuck Swindoll  Exodus 14:15-22

Had we been in charge of the Red Sea project, we would have handled it differently. Our group of engineers would have pushed back that water a week in advance. We would have installed great, massive fans to dry out the land. We would have erected huge neon signs. Somebody would have brought in concession stands to handle the hot dogs and drinks. You see, when people do it, the project takes on all the trademarks of market-driven hotshots. The supernatural is easily eclipsed by human ingenuity. 

That’s not God’s plan. When He wants you cornered, outnumbered. And there are no signs. There is no slick ad campaign. There are no great human resources to trust in. There are just an uncrossable Red Sea and an encroaching army of impossibilities. So you wait. And time passes. He will fight His way at His time. Bite your nails all you want to—He’s in no hurry. Continue reading