Removing Negative Seeds

By Eddie Capparucci, LPC, CSAS, CPCS

Over the years, Bill’s mind had been planted with negative seeds. Raised by an angry and hostile mother who never recovered over his father leaving, she took her frustration out on the little boy breaking his spirit with relentless criticism and contempt. The negative seeds she planted took root as he believed her insidious lies. Bill was taught he was worthless and would amount to nothing. His was to be a wasted life. negative seed

Those lies cost Bill a great deal as an adult. He dropped out of high school, has been divorced twice, is a recovering alcoholic, and has difficulty staying employed. Bill doesn’t do well with authority. Any direction he receives is taken as criticism, which leads to anger. When one of his wives or a supervisor would question him, Bill felt emotions like those he experienced when his mother would unleash her relentless criticism and mockery. Feeling wounded, Bill had learned to fight back and then withdraw (or quit). It is a pattern he started as a young teenager. Continue reading

Moving Beyond Yourself

 


By Eddie Capparucci, LPC, CSAS, CPCS

A doctor, a lawyer, a little boy, and a priest were out for a Sunday afternoon flight on a small private plane. Suddenly, the plane developed engine trouble. Despite the best efforts of the pilot, the plane started to go down. Finally, the pilot grabbed a parachute and yelled to the passengers that they better jump, and he himself bailed out.untitled

Unfortunately, there were only three parachutes remaining. The doctor grabbed one and said, “I’m a doctor, I save lives, so I must live,” and jumped out. The lawyer then said, “I’m a lawyer and lawyers are the smartest people in the world. I deserve to live.” He also grabbed a parachute and jumped.

The priest looked at the little boy and said, “My son, I’ve lived a long and full life. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Take the last parachute and live in peace.”
The little boy handed the parachute back to the priest and said, “Not to worry Father. The smartest man in the world just took off with my backpack.”

We think a lot about ourselves. We may not realize it but it’s true. As individuals, we are far too concerned about our own comfort – which requires the removal of mental and emotional distress while acquiring things in life that bring us pleasure. On top of that, we spend far too much time worrying about how others perceive us and working to make good impressions. If you don’t believe that just look at most Facebook postings.
And what is at the heart of this selfishness? Misguided pride. Continue reading