By Eddie Capparucci, LPC, CSAS
As a child, I had an invisible friend who I called upon when I was feeling lonely, sad, or scared. He was a wonderful source of comfort and helped entertain me during times when I felt isolated. He made my loneliness disappear and I felt safe with him around.
What I loved most about my invisible friend was his consistency. I didn’t need to worry about him disappointing me by not showing up. So often I felt disappointed by family members who didn’t provide me with the level of attention and affirmation I needed as a child. Not the case with my invisible friend, who was faithful in helping me get through uncomfortable times.
I wonder how many of us think of God as an invisible friend. Someone we can call on when we are facing stressful times or painful moments. We ask Him to remove our distress and provide us with comfort. “Be there for me when I feel alone,” is what we request. And, He certainly can deliver upon that appeal.
“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
But God is more than an invisible friend. More importantly, He deserves to be treated with a reverence and respect we would never give to an invisible friend.
I wonder if this may be one reason, so many Christians feel distance from God. They treat Him like an invisible friend. While there were many benefits to having that friend as a child, I have come to realize it was a one-sided relationship. He gave, and I took. I never asked how he was doing or how he may have been hurting. There was no desire in my heart to get to know him better. I only focused on how he could help me.
When we struggle to feel the depth of God’s love, we need to explore the depth of our desire to know Him. We must ask, how strong is our Spiritual hunger.
Dr. David Jeremiah, the founder of Turning Point Ministry, said this about Christians. “We all have as much God as we want.”
Ouch! That is so painful to hear. But I believe it rings true.
How often and deeply do we pursue God when there is no crisis in our life? How strong is the desire of our heart to have a more intimate relationship with him? How compelled are we to make Him the center of all we do?
He understands this is a challenge for us and that is why Jesus gave us the command, “And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” Mark 12:30
If the only time we call upon God is when we need an invisible friend to provide comfort or to remove emotional and physical pain from our life, we will never feel the true depth of His love. Instead, we will continue to feel frustrated in what we believe is an incomplete relationship with Him.
Our God is so much more than an invisible friend. But to understand the depth of His love we need to tap into our Spiritual hunger. Our desire to know Him should be never-ending and always be growing. It can’t be hit or miss. Instead, it should be confident and strong.
He deserves that from us. And with that effort, we will be the ones who benefit the most.
Eddie Capparucci, LPC, CSAS is a licensed Christian counselor and author with a private practice in Marietta, GA. Feel free to re-post and share this article. You can read more of his thoughts on his blogs: