A new survey conducted by Weight Watchers showed women on average criticize themselves eight times a day. Eight times a day a woman is trashing herself in some fashion!
The survey, which was conducted among 2,000 women between the ages of 18 and 60, claims women engage in negative self-talk most often about their appearance and career. They also spend a great deal of time comparing themselves to other women – which we know never leads to positive outcomes. In fact, 89% of the women admitted giving compliments to other women that they would never believe about themselves.
So why are women so negative when it comes to how they feel about themselves? According to the Weight Watchers’ survey, two major factors are social media and media influence. We all understand how today’s media presents a message being popular is everything and one of the keys to popularly is having the “perfect” appearance. The image of today’s American women that is being portrayed by the media is false. Most women are not 6-foot tall and 110 pounds. In fact, the average physical statistics for today’s woman in this country is 5’4” and 166.2 pounds (according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention).
Social media outlets are sources where people brag about their achievements and circumstances. Rarely are posts negative and this leaves viewers with the impression that others are doing much better in life than themselves. This in turn leads to negative self-assessments that are not based on reality but instead false assumptions and impressions.
One of the key findings of the survey was women wish they could “believe in themselves”. But how do you believe in yourself when you’re trashing yourself throughout the day?
Our sense of worth should not be based on our erroneous and faulty self-perceptions, but instead we are better served to turn outward for the inspiration and confidence needed to generate positive self-worth. Where would that come from? Our relationship with God.
Self-worth found in our performance, appearance, careers or in how we perceive others see us will always be limiting and unsteady. Instead our true self-worth can only be obtained by understanding and believing how God sees us.
“I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters,’ says the Lord Almighty.” (2 Corinthians 6:17-18).
Sisters, you are children of God. He created each of you to be in relationship with Him. He wants you to lean on Him to be nurtured and guided. He wants to protect and comfort you. He wants you to feel special and unique. He wants you to feel proud of yourself despite your flaws and imperfections.
It’s time to end the negative self-talk and replace it with the truth. And that truth is you are “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). Don’t tear down with your negative words what your loving Father in Heaven created.
Eddie Capparucci, MA, LPC is a licensed counselor with a private practice in Marietta, GA. Please feel free to share and re-post this article. You can read more of his articles at his website: www.abundantlifecounselingga.com or his blogs: www.TamingChristianShame.com and www.SexuallyPureMen.com