What identifies you? Is it your job? Is it the college you went to? Is it your status in the community or church? Or perhaps it is something from your past. Maybe it’s an abusive experience that you replay in your mind again and again.
These tragic memories never seem to fade away but instead continue to haunt you until they become part of your internal fabric that you wear every day. Or perhaps it’s a series of lies you have come to believe that are part of your identity. Lies such as: “I’m not that smart.” “I’m not attractive.” “I am unlovable.” “I am worthless.” “People never like me.” Continue reading
One of my clients was going through a particularly difficult time with finances. Her hours at work had been reduced and she needed to dip into her savings each month to pay her bills. This went on for several months and she complained the stress of worrying about money was having a negative impact on her sleep, health and personal relationships. Normally, a gentle and easy-going individual, her emotional distress was causing her to be irritable and short-tempered. She could find nothing to be happy with and found fault in all things and every one. She was painting her life with a broad black brush.
When I asked what percentage of the time she thought about her financial situation she answered “It seems like I think about it 100% of the time. I can’t let it go and it feels like a weight that is causing me to drown.” Continue reading
A new survey conducted by Weight Watchers showed women on average criticize themselves eight times a day. Eight times a day a woman is trashing herself in some fashion!
The survey, which was conducted among 2,000 women between the ages of 18 and 60, claims women engage in negative self-talk most often about their appearance and career. They also spend a great deal of time comparing themselves to other women – which we know never leads to positive outcomes. In fact, 89% of the women admitted giving compliments to other women that they would never believe about themselves. Continue reading