We may feel as though we are suffering alone. But God is shedding tears with us. There is a purpose to our suffering.
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” James 1:2-5
The pain we suffer often leads to shame or increases our existing shame. Understand you are not suffering alone. God is with you. Turn to God and seek His guidance and love. Turn to God to have your shame washed away. Turn to God and understand the true meaning of love.