Are You a Stream or a Puddle?

“You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.”  Jeremiah 29:13

I am not sure what it is lately but I have been encountering more people who are describing their lives as “dry”. They are extremely busy, yet believe life is passing them by. They are doing much but accomplishing little. In fact, life feels more like existing than living. I know this feeling, I have been there myself. It weighs heavily on the soul and leads to a sense of unfulfillment and even depression.stream-961388_1920

What are we experiencing during these difficult and trying seasons? We are stuck in our Christian walk. A lack of movement in our Christian life brings with it feelings of emptiness and shame. It is as though we are sitting in the dark waiting for someone to shine a light so we can see where to go next. Continue reading

Hiding From God?

We do not need to hide from God. He knew they were naked and He knows we are sinners. Do not allow your shame to keep you in Satan’s darkness. Instead, move out into God’s light and begin to experience the feeling of mercy and love. That is what your Heavenly Father wants for you. hiding[1]

ARE YOU LIVING IN THE DARK?

anonymous-376540_1280Can you recall as a child being afraid of the dark? If you were one of those unlucky kids you can remember how frightening it felt when the lights went out and you tried to focus on going to sleep. But sleep was the farthest thing from your mind. Instead you were filled with thoughts of evil creatures and bad people that you thought were lurking around your room.

As an adult, most likely you are no longer afraid of the dark. But whether we admit it or not, we still spent much of our lives living in darkness. What does it look like to live in darkness? Continue reading

What is Christian Shame?

As a Christian counselor, I see two self-defeating beliefs in approximately 75 percent of my Christian clients:

  • First, there is the burden of shame that results from an inability to control sinful behavior. We tend to belino-585302_1920eve God’s seal of approval is based on our “performance.” This in turn creates a mindset of never measuring up to what God expects from us. This leads to what I call a shame label.
  • Second, there is an endless struggle to feel God’s love and presence. “What does it feel like to love God?” we ask. We dare not move toward Him in fear He will label us as disappointments and reject us. What we fail to recognize is we are projecting the negative feelings we have about ourselves onto God. We have adopted lies that Satan drilled into our heads in an attempt to hinder our relationship with the Father. We are trapped in the Christian Shame Cycle.

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Conquering Shame with The Living Stone

One question I receive often in my counseling practice is “how do I remove my shame”? While there is no easy, or one-size-fits all process, a vital component to eliminating our shamefulness is found in our pursuit of “The Living Stone”. The Living Stone” of course is Jesus Christ, as we learn in 1 Peter 2:4.

“As you come to Him, the Living Stone — rejected by men but chosen by God and precious to Him — you also, like living stones are being built into a spiritual house to be a holy priesthood, offering spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ”. Continue reading

What Does Your Shame Label Read?

What does your shame look like? Is it reflective of a trauma from your past? It is the result of abuse you suffered at the hands of another? Perhaps it is the regret of poor choices. Or it could be an addictive behavior you simply cannot manage.

How-Labels-Stick-to-Your-Child_article[1]Shame has the ability to take our emotional pain and ensure it never fades away. Instead it haunts us daily until hurtful memories become part of our internal fabric. We believe the lies Satan softly whispers or loudly screams at us and we wear them as labels to identify ourselves. Labels such as: “I’m not smart.” “I’m not attractive.” “I am unlovable.” “I am worthless.” “I don’t respect my body.” “People don’t like me.” “You can use me.” Continue reading

God and Your Shame

Know this about your Shame: God doesn’t call you to show Him your shame so He can condemn you. He wants to help remove it. Move toward Him not away.  

“They looked to Him and their faces shined with joy. Their faces will never be ashamed.” Psalms 34:5. 

Trust in God and He will heal you and make you whole once again.